Struggle………we all have experienced it. Whether it comes in the form of a decision, a way of life or the resistance to change, all of us have taken our turn on the dance floor. Now, I can tell you without reservation, that this is not the fluid, graceful dance of a ballerina. It is a genre that comes in the form of halting movements, shallow breathing and a whole lot of sharp angles.
While I was wondering around the fabric of my thoughts a few days ago, I realized that so much of the struggle we experience is of our own making. One of my personal “dance partners” has been money. The flow of it, the lack of it, the larger questions of what exactly to “do” with it. I was raised with parents who were not conscious of the decisions that they made with money. I was also locked in a struggle of child support and control with a former husband. I carried all of these struggles with me, like a cherished book or piece of jewelry. Letting go of them would leave a huge “hole” in my life. I mean, lacking anything else going on, I could always concentrate on my struggles…….
It hadn’t dawned on me, until now, that I am able to release from those old struggles. They are not mine to carry – probably never were. And, in releasing these struggles, just as I have learned to release and let the clay take the lead, I am also able to forgive and release all of the others that were connected to them. How many other old struggles are stuck in the dance of the dark?
As with any tunnel and the light at it’s end, we have the choice to release ourselves and others from the old, worn out stories of struggle and make room for fresh new opportunities to find more ease in our life. Our struggles and pain may be inevitable, but they don’t have to be permanent.